Splashing through muddy puddles in my heels I wasn’t convinced that a rugby club was the best place to hold – as Club Spank calls it – a ‘fluffy fetish’ event. Even though it was just on the outskirts of Brighton, initially the (almost) countryside venue seemed an inconvenience, since missing the minibus organised by the club meant one of us reluctantly had to become the designated driver. We knew that there had been random issues with previous venues for Spank (one changed ownership, another closed down altogether) but it’s a sad day when even the ‘b-right-on’ city of Brighton isn’t actively embracing the BDSM banknote. Tsk…
Luckily, the rugby club had already pretty much seen it all courtesy of its own members. Whilst the bar staff looked mildly bemused at the scene unfolding before them, one let slip that the mezzanine above their heads had been known to boast drunken rugby fans and players partying in various states of undress, and that the Spank faithful were wearing considerably more clothes than their usual clientele!
Indeed, the evening’s theme ‘The Age of Corsets’ was interpreted fairly liberally by all and sundry: there were the ubiquitous topless beauties (men included) wearing waspies, some in face-to-floor festish gear, others in fairly straight or festival fashion and lots of gorgeous tattoos on show generating natural conversational ice-breakers.
Because if there’s one consistent comment we hear about the better-known fetish nights in this part of the country – especially those in the capital – it’s that they can have an unwelcome, exclusive air. Maybe it’s the London about them, maybe it’s the competitive couture latex. Thankfully the Spank crew could not be said to be the same: clubbers were warm, chatty, dressed-up but not ‘up-themselves’: altogether a great bunch of party-goers. Where else would strangers introduce themselves to you before presenting you to mutual strangers, all genuinely content to spend mingling? From conversations about fetishes and personal experiences through martial arts and Physics(!) to just general banter, the Spank crowd were an inclusive lot and this really added to the friendly feel of the night.
Downstairs in the dungeon (AKA the rugby club changing rooms) it was a similar scene, only with fetish furniture and public spankings. Being November the dungeons could have done with a heater or two, and the smaller of the rooms could have done with some suitable low-lighting rather than super-sterile brightness. Various comments were also made about the lack of available spanking equipment, as people were invited to bring their own paddles, canes and feathers (no doubt for hygiene reasons) but had clearly forgotten in the excitement of getting ready for the party. In any case, we’ll forgive these omissions in light of the convivial atmosphere amongst the observers conversing on the changing room benches. After all, there’s nothing like a good public punishment to bring people together (although the term ‘fluffy fetish’ is of course happily open to interpretation)…
No doubt the reasonably priced drinks at the out-of-town venue didn’t harm the social lubrication, and with loud music and cheeky couples there is great potential in using somewhere rural come Spring and Summer (the smoking balcony in particular will benefit from the lighter nights and brighter views across the Downs). And yes, there were a few rough edges already being addressed after the inaugural night of this unlikely venue, but generally Spank’s organisers did an impressive job planning a fun event to which Cliterati will return again: after all, one can never have enough friends. Or fun!
Party with Club Spank during Brighton Fetish Weekend, 10th-12th April 2015
This year I’m all a-flutter about attending my first ever Eroticon, the conference for sex bloggers and erotic writers. I’m a year behind the event, which held its inaugural get-together in 2012, so I’m looking forward to catching up with everyone there.
Name: Mia More
Twitter id: @irregular_voice
Must attend Eroticon 2013 session: Having seen both Petra Boynton and Meg Barker speak at the Science Of Sex festival in Brighton last month, I think their academic take on ‘Erotica, its role in relationships & expanding sexualities’ will be fascinating. I love feeding my inner geek, and this looks like the perfect session in which to indulge…
I’m also interested in Ruth and Les Browne’s ‘Disability and Sex’ talk, as I think it’s a very important subject that deserves far more exposure than salacious Red Top papers screaming about sex workers in care homes (the work of whom, happily – and unusually – most commentators seem to support in this instance).
Bloggers you’d like to be trapped in the lift with: All the bloggers and industry experts I’ve met online but never in person – too many to mention, so let’s just say I’m intrigued and excited! I’m especially looking forward to meeting the wonderful writers who contribute to Cliterati: Lucy Felthouse, Lady Pandorah, Molly Moore, LadyLaidBare and of course the lovely Blacksilk who I’ve already spent a happy hour with in Cardiff.
Erotic writer you’d like to write dramatize your life story: I enjoy the fast pace of Sylvia Day’s Crossfire books, and since my life seems to be non-stop drama(!) I think she’d write it very well.
Expected biggest fangirl / fanboy moment: I’m hoping to meet Cindy Gallop, as I really like her makelovenotporn idea. I wish the American blogger Maggie McNeil (The Honest Courtesan) was coming, as she’s got a great brain on her shoulders and I’d love to pick it – I really admire her writing.
What keeps you awake at nights? Mentally organising what I’m going to achieve the following day (which is ridiculous, since it generally leaves me sleep-deprived andtherefore too tired to fulfil all my carefully-laid plans), the family laundry (it’s a constant battle), and being excited about the big girlie get-together at Eroticon 2013.